How To Get More Love

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Everybody wants more love. Everybody. Even though many people would disagree with that statement:

"Not me! I've been hurt too many times. I'll NEVER love again!"

But that's a temporary stance. (Even if it lasts for the rest of a lifetime.... since a lifetime is so temporary.)

Sadly, many people hold onto the belief of 'love = pain' no matter how painful it becomes.

Every human heart longs for love. While so many human minds convince themselves love = pain.

They end up in the yawn. The stretch - the separation - of heart and head. Which only increases the pain.

It begins with faulty assumptions about love. It ends, sadly, all-to-often, with death. Most people would rather die than to question their assumptions. And many people do. Many more will...

One faulty assumption: I must get my love from some outside source. The love I want is somewhere 'out there' and my job is to get it, by hook or by crook. I must squeeze the worldly turnip until it gives me the blood of love.

You can't squeeze blood out of a turnip. You can't squeeze love out of the world. It's impossible. It's so sad to see people try. I've been as guilty as anybody. Thank God I learned the truth.

Everything you experience comes from ESSENCE. Part of essence - the easiest part to work with (from my experience) - is the wellspring of emotion that continuously bubbles up inside of you.

The wellspring flows all the time. Bringing you everything you could ever want or need - and more. Want more love? Need more love? Go to the source.

Unfortunately, nobody knows about this wellspring. Nobody talks about it. It's not on the evening news. There are no government proclamations. There is no National Feel Your Wellspring Day.

Too bad.

When I first discovered my wellspring - it seemed so far away; so elusive; so hard to get to and experience and work with.

Now I'm living in it a good bit of the time. It keeps becoming more and more real to me.

I learned a few things about love. I learned I can never manipulate love out of the world. Love comes from the wellspring. I learned the easiest way to get love is to give away the love I currently feel.

At first I made it tricky. Because I was still trying to manipulate. My desire wasn't clean.

"I'll give love so they (whoever 'they' are) will give ME love."

I was still trying to get love from the world because, frankly, I just didn't value myself. I didn't honestly believe I was capable of tapping into an infinite supply of love.

I didn't believe an infinite source of love could possibly be sourced inside of me.

It seemed too good to be true. Instead...

"I must struggle to get love."

What a sad lie. I'm still not exactly sure what turned things around for me. I guess it was a stubborn tenacity. I was determined to make that wellspring more real.

I had to feel a lot of pain - letting it flow through me - before I found the love. (I was already in a lot of pain. Letting it flow was no more painful. Just different.)

The more I became an open vessel... the less I restricted the flow... the easier it became to feel the love.

The way to 'get' more love involves being like a light bulb. I used to try to squeeze light out of a dark room. I could've just turned on the light switch. Let the flow of love come from the source - like electricity through a wire.

Electricity flows. When it encounters resistance such as the filament of a light bulb, it changes into light. The energy changes.

The wellspring flows into me. I am a form of 'resistance'. Not in a limiting way, but in a physics way. It's physics. And I light up like a light bulb. Maybe I'm happy. Maybe I'm sad. Maybe I'm scared. Maybe I'm mad. Doesn't matter. As long as it's flowing.

As long as I don't change the natural resistance - that my very existence creates.

Of course I often do add to the natural resistance. I still tell myself stories.

The world is a mirror. Sometimes I still blame my reflection (the world I perceive) for what's happening. Fortunately, I usually catch myself. I can laugh at my lies. Then I can get back to what's real:

Working on being an open pathway for the flow of energy (which I call the wellspring of emotion) so I can more easily pick and choose what I want to experience.

It's all in the wellspring. It all comes from the wellspring.

I explain it more in the free e-book on emotional healing.

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Your Future Self

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You have a future self who's more real than you.

It thinks different thoughts from you.

It feels different feelings from you.

It knows you better than you know yourself. It knows what's best for you.

It knows what you deny. It knows what you believe. It knows what you assume. It knows you inside and out. And it loves you more than you love yourself.

It thinks about you a lot. It loves you unconditionally. It's more real than you. It will help you if you let it.

Some people will read these words and say that's ridiculous. The future hasn't happened yet. I can't possibly have a future self who's more real than I.

Others will embrace the concept wholeheartedly. "Wow! That's incredible! I can't wait to meet MY future self!"

And more people will probably rest in the middle. Open-minded skepticism. You're the ones I'm targeting.

Because if you already believe it, I don't have to convince you. When I say the future is more real than the present, somewhere inside it rings true. And when I say you have a future self - the YOU that you are becoming - it doesn't scare you. You embrace the concept.

But what if you're not sure? Maybe it's true; maybe it's not. I'd say look at it this way: it doesn't really matter at this point. You can use it as powerful technique even if it's only in your head. You can pretend you have a future self that wants to help you. And hopefully, some day it will be more than a technique.

What if a pipeline from the future really exists? Wouldn't that be nice? Then you could work with it. To give you what you want.

You can pretend it's just a technique and you'll still get the benefit: a life more suited to what you want.

Your future contains a range of possibilities. A range; from the most wonderfully expansive that could possibly happen to you, to the most painfully restrictive you could possibly imagine.

Your future self is like a composite of all possible futures.

Luckily for you, it wants you to have the best.

Here's how to start working with it:

Remember when you were a kid, and you had an imaginary friend? You understand the concept, even if you didn't play that game....

For me personally, I used to pretend I was explaining to alien life forms how our society functioned. (Don't get me started on that....!)

Anyway, you can imagine you have a future self right now.

If you did have a future self, what would it look like? What clothes would it wear? How old would it be? (Mine sometimes appears younger than I am. Go figure.)

Get an image in mind. Also, when you're in your 'quiet time' - why not invite it into your space? You could just lie in bed, close your eyes, relax, and imagine it. That may be the simplest way. Or, you could 'officially' go into an altered state of consciousness; perhaps by meditating.

Remember in the book, "Think And Grow Rich" where the author spoke of creating a 'mastermind' group? You could follow that technique, and start with your future self as the first member of the group.

The important thing is to be relaxed and focused and in a quiet space. And INTEND to bring your future self closer to you. Ask for your most-positive future self to come to you and help you.

Once you're quiet and relaxed and focused and you've invited in your future self, you could start by just sitting with it and ask it to send you love or good energy or whatever feeling you'd like to feel. Then pretend you really do have a future self and it really is sending you love.

Spend a few minutes just trying to feel its presence. Once you begin to feel something, you can then ask it questions. Don't be surprised if you actually hear a response. (But in the beginning, most likely you'll just get a gut feeling, or maybe an image will come to mind.)

Work on intensely creating a vision of the future self you'd LIKE to have - the 'you' that you'd like to become. And imagine you've got a future self who's intensely working to connect with you at the same time.

The more you practice, the stronger the image becomes.

I've been doing this for almost a decade. Whether it's real or not, my future self has gotten me through some really tough times, as I focused on what I wanted to be in the future.

Imagining a future self gave me a POINT OF FOCUS.

So in a way, it doesn't matter whether you 'really' do have a future self or not. Even by keeping it as just a technique, you can benefit.

It can be a powerful extension of the classic 'visualize what you want'.

Try it.

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What Is REAL Emotion?

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Are you feeling real emotion? Or is it just a fabrication? Here's how to find out...

Just because you're feeling something, that doesn't automatically mean it's a 'real' emotion.

Because so much of what we feel is a 'mental construct' of our own making.

In other words, it's a fabrication; an artificial emotion.

Why would we do such a thing?

Many reasons. Basically, we've learned that we can and should not feel our feelings cleanly. We learn that we can manipulate our feelings. And in fact, we are strongly encouraged to manipulate our feelings.

For example, rather than hearing from our parents:

"Don't you manipulate me by manipulating your feelings!"

Instead the message becomes abbreviated to:

"Don't you cry!"

Of course it's not just parents. Everywhere you look, you're given the message to NOT feel. And if you must - go off somewhere and do it alone. And even then, don't go too deep into your feelings!

Make it quick and shallow and get back to work.

Well, if you were truly in touch with your REAL emotions, you could make it quick and deep and get back to work.

Here's the problem:

So often we think what we're feeling IS true emotion, when it's not.

When you feel real emotion, it usually lasts only a few seconds. Or a few minutes at most. You feel the complexity of it - like eating a delicious gourmet meal.

You FEEL the COMPLEXITY of it - then it's gone - and you are left invigorated. No matter what the emotion is: love, anger, hate, fear, hurt, happiness...

Now it's true: if you feel your happiness - and it releases - there may be more happiness right behind it. So it seems like it's not releasing. When really, it's simply flowing. Same with love.

Even anger, when cleanly felt - fully and joyously - may have more anger behind it. (If you're not enjoying your anger, then most likely what you're feeling is righteous anger - which is painful. And not real anger.)

You see, there's ALWAYS a flow of thoughts and feelings flowing into you. So you're always feeling something.

The problem is, we so often try to shut off that flow of feelings. (As well as blunting the flow of thoughts - so we end up thinking the same thoughts over and over again. But that's a different story.)

What happens when we try to shut off our feelings? Many things. Many problems. Nothing good comes from manipulating our feelings. Here's one example:

How do you tell the difference between real anger and righteous anger?

With real anger, you feel it all through your body. It almost tingles. It invigorates you. You feel a sense of DEEPNESS (that's hard to put into words.)

And you're soon over it. And you feel more alive. You almost seem smarter. Again, it's hard to put into words.

You can even be left with a sense of gratitude:

"Wow - that felt great! Thanks..."

If I had to sum it up: real emotion is like going for a roller coaster ride.

Now compare that to righteous anger; which means 'anger you believe you have the RIGHT to feel - because it's caused by an outside influence'. In other words, you honestly believe someone or something outside yourself actually created YOUR anger.

To feel righteous about your anger - you're taking a little bit of real anger and putting it onto a treadmill or a hamster wheel or however you wish to visualize it. That treadmill is your 'mental construct'.

Rather than feeling it and being done with it - you must keep the story alive of how 'they' did it to you. So it goes on and on and on and never ends. That's painful! And exhausting. And a tremendous waste of energy.

It creates powerlessness. Because I don't have my power. I've given it to the 'offender'. Or rather, I lay my power at their feet. Since someone else 'created' your anger, you're forced to believe only they can take it away. Which of course is impossible.

With real emotion there is no story; no explanation; no rationalization. It's just me feeling my feelings.

With artificial emotion, I take my feelings - whatever they may be - and build something out of them that isn't even true. Because NO ONE CAN EVER MAKE YOU FEEL ANYTHING.

Childhood shame is the closest exception to that statement. But you're not a child.

With real emotion - you're going for a short exhilarating ride on a roller coaster.

With fabricated emotion - you're sitting underneath the metal structure - in the dirt and the grease - looking at the rust and the rivets - and saying:

"I know what roller coasters are!"

But you never ride one.

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Anger Poems

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Well, maybe I should call this Anger Poem instead of Anger Poems
since there's only one. So far.

The Anger Poem

Frenzied and scattered and
Out of Control

And all I can see is the lostness of soul.

Don't know if I'm coming
Don't know if I go
Don't know if the answer
I don't know, I don't know.

Grasping and reaching but
Nothing is there

And all I can see is the smell in the air.

The anger is coming
The anger is here
The anger is knowing
It's all that I fear.

It's coming from me
But I blame it on you
It's making me blind
I don't know what to do.

It's burning me down
It eats me alive
It's hurting me now
I'll never survive.

The anger is real
But I make it a lie
The anger I feel
Is the anger I hide.

Nobody can see it
Nobody can know
Nobody can touch it
I don't know, I don't know.


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