What's The Use?

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When I was about 20 years old, I was consumed with feelings and thoughts of 'what's the use?'.

As a result, I functioned as an extremely apathetic person towards life; and towards everything, really.

I didn't care about myself or anything else.

And I never stopped to look at the energy behind those thoughts and feelings. I just lived and functioned out of them.

Recently, they surfaced again.

I'm grateful they did, because it gave me an opportunity to reflect. First, to go back to that 20-year-old in meditation. To remember what he was feeling, and to help us both heal.

I know those intense thoughts and feelings from the past don't resolve themselves. More likely, they get buried alive... only to come back and haunt - whenever something today triggers them.

Those past events take today's energy. Which makes me less powerful. Until they're resolved, that is.

So I'm always grateful when something like this comes up, because I know the end result is that I'll be more powerful.

Anyway, I'd forgotten how EXTREMELY apathetic I used to be. Once the hubris of adolescence completely wore off, that's when the apathy set in. After I lost my adolescent passion; after the teenage years ended.

And I didn't even realize it at the time. Now, 30 years later, I got to take it apart and see how it all worked.

For me, the apathy came from a lack of mattering.

"No matter what I do, it really doesn't matter. Nothing matters."

The reason nothing matters is because I don't matter. So why bother to do anything?

The basic problem was a lack of mattering.

There were specific and unique reasons for my lack of mattering:

Shame. Lack of deserving. Feelings of not good enough. All a result of specific childhood experiences. Out of which came low self esteem and a loss of self worth.

No mystery there.

I've already done the work of healing the inner child and releasing those painful energies. ( A good introduction to healing the inner child can be found in the e-books The Magic Of Forgiveness and How To Create Your Own Reality.)

I've found my self worth. And I've come to understand I'm continuously building my self esteem. Or rather, I'm either building it... or it's slipping away.

It's almost the opposite of self worth - which is given. Which can only be lost, or found, but never built. Everyone is always 100% worthy. All you can do is lose touch with it. Or reclaim it.

But I digress.

Today, I want to explain how I first came to be filled with mattering. And how you can too. Mattering becomes an ally if you let it.

The energy of mattering is a force you can use to re-find and rediscover and reclaim your passion. Passion brings the juiciness to life. It adds complexity. Passion makes life fun!

And ironically, you can use mattering to clear up the very problems a lack of it creates. When you're filled with the energy of mattering, for example, you feel better about yourself. You feel more of your self worth. Self esteem comes easier. And it's easier to know you deserve. Those are some of the rewards of filling yourself with the energy of mattering.

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Before we look more closely at mattering, I also want to briefly emphasize those forgotten, neglected, abandoned parts of you from your past.

Because they don't die, and they don't really go away. And it keeps taking more and more of your energy to try to push them away. But they keep influencing.

In fact, I'd say most people function almost exclusively out of their inner child or inner adolescent or even their inner parent. Or their ego. Or some other inner voice.

Well, it this case, it was my inner 20-year-old. From a very traumatic time in my life.

If you'll look back at your own life, and identify those ages when the greatest trauma took place, then you can bet there's a part of you still living at that age. A part that's scared, lost, confused, abandoned, betrayed, etc. (Besides the inner child and adolescent, the other parts such as ego can develop problems as well during these traumatic times.)

By personifying that part of you (seeing it as a person) and letting it speak to you (in quiet meditative times) then you can open the door to PROFOUND changes in your life. Again, here's two resources which describe how to begin:

The Magic Of Forgiveness and How To Create Your Own Reality

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Okay, now back to the mattering...

First I let that 20 year old speak to me; telling me how lonely, dejected, rejected it felt. How consumed with apathy it felt. I let it talk and talk until it ran out of things to say... as I sat in a quiet meditative place.

Then I asked if it would be willing to heal. It said yes. (If it had said no, I would've done the rest myself.)

Anyway, I imagined the two of us going to...

The Crossroads Of Mattering.

I see it as an intersection of two quiet country roads. In my case, they're dirt roads, but you can imagine them any way you like.

I stood in the middle of the intersection with my 20 year old, and looked in all four directions.

To the south, in the distance, I saw a huge bonfire.

To the west, I saw water; waterfalls, mist, a stream, a lagoon. Water everywhere.

To the north I saw a hill, with an outcropping of rock, and beyond it I saw deep woods.

And finally, to the east, I saw wide open space - representing the element air.

I've traveled to all four directions, but since I'm an earth-type person, I usually go to the north to find my mattering. You can go to any and all of them if you choose.

So, the two of us went into the hill; into the rock that stood to the north of the intersection.

Whichever directions you go to find your mattering, here's the two steps to follow:

First, let the element remove the reasons 'why-not'. Why you don't matter. Why you lack mattering. Why your life lacks mattering. Let the earth suck it out of you like a poultice. Let the air lift you, blow you apart, and blow away the limitations. Step into the bonfire and let the flames consume all the limitations. Go into the waters, and let the water wash away your apathy, your undeserving, or whatever is there.

Give yourself to your element to let it heal you. Allow the healing. Receive the healing.

Second, now let the element fill you with mattering. Let it be mysterious and unknown.

You'll never know how it happens, or how it's even possible. But if you'll surrender to your element in this way - especially if you do it several times - you will notice a difference.

It can change you if you'll let it.

The trick is to be willing to receive. And open yourself up. Open up your heart. Open up your mind. Open up your essence. Open up in any way you can imagine.

Open yourself up to your element. For a minute or two, 'become one' with it.

That's how you get results.


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Creating Alliances

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On this fourth video, I talk more specifically about creating an alliance with your doctor, your medications, and with nutritional supplements.

I list three main activities you can do to start creating an alliance.

One of the activities involves measuring your power throughout the day.

Another involves retrieving your power from your ally.

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Retrieving Your Power

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This is my third video and in this one I talk about taking your power back.

First I review the ways we give our power away, and then I talk about how to start taking it back.

It's all based on our intention. Your power flows through your intention. I explain how it works on the video.

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Withdrawal & The Grand Promise

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In this, my second video on antidepressant withdrawal, I want to step back and look at the big picture.

I want to set the context of how a person would get into this position in the first place.

It's all based on 'the grand promise'.

You can learn the fundamental principle by watching the video below. If you have a specific question about the grand promise, then feel free to leave a comment below and I'll do my best to answer it.

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Antidepressant Withdrawal Intro

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I just uploaded a video to youtube.

It's my very first video and in it I explain how I came to understand and work with antidepressant withdrawal.

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Why You Won't Change

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Why won't you change?

Oh, you'll talk about change. You'll talk a good game. But usually, what we really mean is we want something or someone else to change while we stay the same.

"If I just had more money..."

That's an example of wishing for outside change which will - magically, if not unspokenly - transform us. Somehow.

But it never works. Changing anything in your life - externally - really doesn't change you one bit.

And frankly, I'm sick of trying to prove otherwise. I've tried so hard, for SO MANY YEARS, to change my environment as a way for me to change. (Here's my little trick to avoid change.)

You can move across the country. You can change your physical location. But it won't, by itself, change anything inside.

Now sometimes making an external change will shake things up enough inside so you really do change. It can happen. That's what they tell addicts to do.

"Change your old physical environment to remove the triggers of your addiction."

It's good advice. But it's at least as important to simultaneously make internal changes as you're making those external ones.

On a less dramatic level, sometimes it truly helps to remove your old anchors - your familiar physical surroundings - as a way to help the changes along.

Just don't think a physical, external change will be enough to change you.

It won't. It can't.

True change comes from the inside out.

But it's so tempting to chase money to attempt to be happy. Or to chase a relationship to attempt to feel love.

You can be happy with money. You can feel loved in a relationship. Especially if you know: happiness can create money. Love can create a relationship. But money never creates happiness. And relationships never create love.

"If I can just find a man - or a woman - then I'll be happy and feel loved."

That's a trap. That's a lie.

Instead, you could use the power of your love - the power of your happiness - to create the relationship you want. Or whatever you want.

Which may involve making some changes internally. It may involve work. Effort. Focus. Self-discovery. Facing up to things you'd rather not face about yourself.

Seems so much simpler to go join a dating service or a singles club. And it is simpler. Put on some nice clothes. Go have some fun. Kick up your heels. Maybe you'll get lucky... Maybe not. Just don't count on a whole lot changing.

Change comes from facing up to what you're currently not facing up to.

Cause if you faced up to it - you'd change!

And your world would change.

Your little world - what you experience in your day to day life - will indeed change.

The more you face up to what you're currently avoiding - the greater your life will change.

It's called working with your shadow. I've seen it in my own life time after time after time after...

The sad fact is, it's really not hard or difficult or even that unpleasant (usually) to face up to yourself. It might be painful or uncomfortable, but at least it ends the pain and the discomfort. Like removing a splinter.

Most would rather dance around - trying to avoid dealing with the splinter. It's a sad dance that never ends, as we keep repeating the pain of the past... while trying to avoid the pain and discomfort. Because we don't want to change; we want the world to change.

All to avoid facing ourselves.

When you really look at it, it seems so senseless. But we've been taught and conditioned to seek change in the world rather than from within. You're practically ridiculed if you think changing yourself is the way to change your life and your world.

Instead, we were taught to place our trust - and give our power away to - some external authority.

"Just elect the right president; that's how change happens."

Do you see how society plays on your fears of facing up to yourself? We're so geared to look outside ourselves for change. While giving 'lip service' to changing ourselves:

"Oh yeah, change yourself too."

But who even knows what that means, or how to do it?

Change comes from becoming more of who you are, and letting go of what you're not.

It comes from facing up to those things you hold onto that aren't really a part of you.

First work on the inside. Then go to the singles club. That's how you get lucky.

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Create A Vision

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One of the biggest problems when you're lost in depression - or anxiety - or any number of unpleasant, painful feelings...

is that you just don't have anything positive to look to - to grab hold of - to focus on.

You just don't have a vision to inspire you.

I know what it's like to be so lost; when you can't see anything anywhere that looks good. It all looks so bleak.

"What's the use?"

You ask. With the inevitable answer:

"There is no use. There is no reason."

Because there is no positive vision.

A vision is something you know to be true.

Which contrasts with a dream: Something you wish to be true.

Both can inspire you. For now, lets look at vision.

A vision is a living image infused with feelings.

You already know how to create a dark vision. It seems to come a little too easily. Just look at practically every single science fiction movie set in the future. All too often they involve pain, strife, struggle, suffering, destruction, evil, bleakness, darkness..

We all know how to create a dark vision. And if we didn't we could just go watch the new movie coming out next week!

Is a dark future vision more realistic? Is it easier to create?

Many would say so.

I would say the dark vision simply gets more attention. Period.

Certainly it's been pounded into our heads - the unspoken message of society - that humans, by their very nature, are evil sinister bad and wrong. Left to our own devices... why, we'd kill each other off.

We'd kill each other off until no one is left. Or, we'll kill all the people who are different from us. Or, we'll destroy the planet; making it uninhabitable.

So of course a dark vision is the only realistic conclusion a reasonable intelligent person could come up with.

I disagree. Even in the United States, the most war-loving nation in the history of the planet, most people are opposed to war.

But the only way to change things is if you and I both create a vision - a positive vision. Not based on hiding our heads in the sand - pretending there is no suffering in the world. Not being Pollyanna.

Humanity changes one person at a time; one human heart at a time.

It begins right here right now. It starts by creating a vision; your personal vision. Not a vision of world peace necessarily. Not of saving the planet.

But it starts with a small, quiet simple vision. Remember, a vision is something you KNOW. Not something you wish would happen.

A vision starts with a single spark.

Like starting a fire in the woods when all you've got is a piece of flint and a piece of steel... and it's getting cold and dark. The sun's going down...

What do you know?

You know you can strike the flint with the steel.

You know you can create a spark.

You know you've got a handful of tinder - that just maybe - can start to smolder and burn.

Your vision starts small. Later it can grow as you feed it with your attention. But first you find your spark. Admittedly, that can be tough.

But if you're alive - and I'm guessing you are - then you do have a spark to serve as the beginning of your vision.

It could be the remembrance of seeing a single act of random kindness between two strangers. (A very powerful magical event, by the way.)

It could be the memory of happier days. It could be the scent of a flower or the smile of a newborn. Or any of a million other things.

Something that touches your heart; stirs your soul; awakens your spirit.

You can find your spark. If you truly want to. You can hold it in your hands and feed it and watch it grow. You can place it in your heart. It can be a living breathing energy that grows and changes and evolves. Ever shifting. Ever alive.

When you feel your best; when you need it the least; that's the best time to work on it.

Or if you feel so lost - as I once did - when your whole world and your whole life looks gray... and heavy...

Then ask to receive a spark.

As you go to sleep at night ask for a spark to come to you in the morning when you awake. Some tiny image or feeling or vision that INSPIRES you. Something that, when you think of it, when you focus on it, it makes you feel better.

If you sincerely want it, you'll most likely get it. Even if it takes a couple of days. Then you can add to it; make it bigger.

You feed it with your love and attention.

My vision resembles a ball of light the size of a football that I keep in the center of my chest. I've fed it so much that now it feeds me whenever I need to be inspired. Or if I just want to feel good.

Or if I'm standing in line at the post office...

It's not about saving the planet. It's about healing yourself. Sometimes it's about getting through the day.



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The Burdens We Bear

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All children feel like victims. The feelings may or may not last - but at one time or another, we've all felt like we were a victim to forces beyond our control.

If those feelings do continue, the logical progression is to feel like a martyr. Not in the religious sense, but rather in the archetypal sense.

A martyr is someone who's burdened with problems that cannot be solved while feeling unappreciated and misunderstood.

It's an archetypal energy; meaning the same feelings can be felt by anyone anywhere. It's universal, in other words.

While victimhood starts in childhood, martyrhood usually starts in adolescence.

The keyword to being a martyr: burden.

I know burden. I know the helplessness of it; the hopelessness of it.

Burden comes from demanding that someone else must be responsible for my life.

Since it's not possible for anyone else to be responsible for your life, the tendency is to take on more and more burden. Which leads to all sorts of unpleasant feelings, such as bitterness, rage, depression, and so forth.

Because when burdens become a way of life, they don't end; they just change form.

I'll get rid of this job, but end up with a new job that creates the same feelings.

I'll get rid of this person, but attract another person who engenders the same unpleasant feelings.

Or I'll stop working - stay home - and be burdened by my kids.

Form changes. The feelings don't. That's the nature of burden.

Burden comes from a resistance to change.

In adolescence, massive changes occur almost on a daily basis. It's a scary time.

We learn to manufacture burdens to feel safe. Not that it works well, but it's about all we can do to attempt to slow down the changes.

Change is frightening.

Change brings impact.

Burdens are an attempt to control the impact of change.

The problem with burdens is they make you feel powerless.

It's like you take a chunk of your power and wrap it in thoughts and feelings of disempowerment. For example, by blaming someone else for the way you feel.

"They're doing this to me!"

If you're feeling burdened, the message behind the burden is: it's time to change.

Change is continuous. You could imagine it as a flow; like the flow of time.

Sameness does not equal safety. Sameness brings stagnation.

The ideal is to be in the flow of change. Like your body. Your body is in a continuous state of change.

Change is natural.

Change is like removing a splinter.

If you want to end burden, first realize you've developed ingrained habits that create burdens. All the habits have one thing in common: an attempt to demand that someone or something else be responsible for my life.

So the solution starts with taking back your power from wherever you've placed it:

I take my power back from my job.

I take my power back from my spouse.

I take my power back from...

And mean it!

Next step.

If you were a bird, what kind of bird would you be?

Not a turkey or a chicken or a penguin. A bird that flies.

Imagine yourself as this bird. Imagine yourself spreading your wings and lifting off the ground. Not as a way to escape, but as a way to feel the flow of change. As a way to gain a new perspective on your life. As a way to end your burden.

Imagine yourself taking off, and flying into the energy of change.

It sounds so simple, but if you really get into it, the experience can blow your mind. Seriously.

Don't worry about changing the content of what burdens you.

If you'll allow yourself to enter the flow of change - free of resistance - either the things that burden you will change, or else they simply won't bother you anymore.

You can fight change. But why?

It's so much more fun to soar.


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Why I Don't Work For Free

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Recently, someone asked me -

"Why dont you do mankind a favour and reveal your secrets to help the unfortunate ones who dont have the money to purchase books?"

Since it pushed so many buttons in me, I figured I'd take a little time to process it out. And you can join along with me for the ride!

First of all, if someone is so unfortunate as to not be able to buy a book, they have much greater problems than I can solve anyway. I've never known anyone who could not buy a book.

The question is, how badly do they want the book?

Apparently, not very badly. Apparently, I haven't demonstrated the value of my books. Because anyone can get money if they're sufficiently motivated to buy something.

I've known homeless crack addicts who - somehow or another - managed to get a good bit of money on a regular basis. A lot more money than any of my books cost.

It's not a question of money.

Anyone can get money if they want it. Or at least, anyone who has computer access can get money. If you're savvy enough to get onto the internet, you can find a way to get money if you really want it. At the very least, you can write articles for people who will pay you.

Start with this site: associatedcontent.com. But there are many more sites that will pay you to write. Did you know there are many sites that pay you to blog?

I could go on and on about money, but that's not the issue. Because if you needed one of my books, and you convinced yourself my book could solve your problem, you'd get the money.

(Or else, you'd write me the right kind of email and then I would give you a book for free. I do give away a lot of books. But only to people who ask in the right way. Most people don't ask in the right way.)

No, it's really a question of entitlement.

"I've suffered so I should get it for free."

"I'm special."

"I shouldn't have to pay."

Boy, do I know entitlement! I LIVED it for most of my life. Which probably explains why this whole situation of 'just give it to me for free' pushes my buttons.

It could be the unresolved issues inside of me:

Maybe I'm still looking for a free ride myself? Maybe I still want someone else to take up my slack? Maybe I still think I'm special?

I don't know.

What I do know, is that entitlement is a dry well.

Entitlement never gets you anything worthwhile. Believe me, no one was more entitled than I was! (Not that I want to swap lies with you...)

Entitlement always leaves you thirsty. Always unsatisfied. It always leaves you empty. It's no fun. You have to keep remembering your little story. All the reasons 'why not'.

Finally I just got so sick of it, I decided to pick myself up and get to work on being responsible. What a difference it made!!!

The answer to entitlement is to tell yourself the truth:

Nobody in the world is capable of being responsible for your life. Nor would you really want them to be.


Another thing that bothers me about this issue: I'm already giving away quite a bit of valuable information as it is. Most of the work I do, I don't make a penny for it.

Not that I'm complaining. I love what I do and I do what I love.

Just getting positive feedback means at least as much as making another sale. You'll probably never find anyone who cares less about money than I do.

Unfortunately, I can't go to the grocery store and tell them:

"Hey, you got all this food here. Why don't you just give me some of it?"

Or go to the barber shop:

"Hey, it's not costing you any money to cut my hair. Why don't you just do it for free?"

The hairdresser is going to be insulted. Why?

Because you don't value them. You don't value their expertise. You don't value their time. You don't value their worth. You don't value their life - and what they're doing with it.

But unlike the hairdresser, I do give a lot away for free already. And I had to pay dearly for what I know. Sometimes with money. Mostly, though, I paid by giving up the things I held so dear. Like my pity.

If it had been 'free' - I doubt I would have valued it anyway. I doubt I would have paid attention. I doubt I would've really learned anything.

That's why I wouldn't really be doing mankind a favor by giving all my 'secrets' away for free. People pay much less attention to what they get for free.

The greater the perceived value, the more someone pays attention.

Try this little experiment: Go buy a cheap bottle of wine, and ask the sales clerk to put a really high price tag on the bottle. Then go take it over to someone's house. Don't say a word about the price. (They'll see the tag!)

And watch what they say about the wine.

I did this myself, at a party for medical doctors. It fooled them all.


Also, life is not about taking.

To get anything, something must be given up.

Life is about exchange. Sometimes money is involved, sometimes not.

I value myself. I'm honored when someone buys one of my books. They've demonstrated their trust. They've honored me.

Very, very few people have ever returned anything I sell on the internet. I'm proud of that fact. Because I know how much garbage is out there. Sometimes the garbage comes with a very high price.

I like to think I give a lot of value.


If you want a free book, you'd be much better off thinking, "What can I give?" rather than, "What can I take?"

Doors open when you truly give of yourself.

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How To Die Faster

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(Or, how to end franticness. Your choice.)

Maybe you've heard of the new movement taking place. It's called the Slow Movement and it aims to help people reconnect with their basic needs.

The Slow Movement was born out of a protest against McDonalds opening a new restaurant at the Piazza di Spagna in Rome.

I guess to some people that was the last straw. Something had to be done to remind people the only thing a fast life does is put you into a grave quicker.

I've been as guilty as anyone of frantically racing through the day, so I understand the allure towards franticness.

And I know a wonderful technique to end franticness.

The basic problem with 'fast living' is that it takes you out of the present moment.

When you're not in the present moment, you're giving away your power and you're not being responsible. Which leads to all sorts of unpleasant results.

But hey, if you slow down, you'll get run over, right? Or everybody else will get ahead of you; pass you by. You'll be left behind if you don't hurry.

These were my unspoken, unrecognized assumptions about life.

Plus, you can't slow down. There's too much to do. Or so it seems.

I'd say the real issue is we have so many more options available to us. So many more distractions.

The real issue is - what are you going to choose to do with your time?

It's easy to fall into the trap of believing we have no choice; because circumstances determine what we can and cannot do.

When I believe an outside authority (or, usually, MANY outside authorities) determine MY life - I've already lost. Even time can be an 'outside authority'.

Must keep up must keep up must keep up...

Must hurry...

I don't have time...

We've all become slaves of time. The clock rules our lives. We're a victim of time.

And a victim of all the other outside authorities in our lives.


I think it's a great idea to slow down... IF it's done in the right way.

If you live a fast-paced life - and you all of a sudden slow it down - that will produce anxiety.

Besides, it's not a physical slowdown you're really after. What you're really after is peace of mind.

And peace of mind has nothing to do with physical activity.


You can physically rush through life and still have peace of mind. And being slow - by itself - does nothing whatsoever to help calm you down.

The physical world is just illusion, right?

It's a reflection of the 'more-real'. What's more real is your own resonance. You can hold a resonance of calmness no matter how busy and hurried your life appears.

First step: Get rid of the franticness.

Here's how:

Get alone for a few minutes.

Calm yourself as much as possible.

Take a few deep breaths.

Relax your body.

Count from 5 to 1, as a way to enter a slightly altered state of consciousness; a meditative state.

At the count of 1, find yourself in the middle of a rushing, raging river. Feel yourself - helpless against a swift, frantic, uncaring current of water. Hear a waterfall up ahead. Know that if you don't do something - fast! - you're going to plunge over the waterfall and into some catastrophe.

Feel the helpless franticness. Be consumed by it.

And then simply stand up!

And realize the water was only a few inches deep to begin with.

Now see the water rushing over your feet, which are firmly planted on the solid rock bottom of the river.

See what you thought was a waterfall - in reality - was only a rock in the middle of the river that the water was rushing past. There is no waterfall. You were never in any danger.

And the water is only a few inches deep!

Now walk over to the shore and sit and laugh at how silly you must have looked lying down in the middle of the river in six inches of water.

Now continue to sit and ponder about how you got so off-track, so off-balance, so off-center.

See your hectic, frantic life reflected in the raging shallow waters.

When you're ready, count from 5 to 1 to return to your life. With a new perspective and a renewed vigor.


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Reduce Your Fears Now

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I wrote an ebook on How To Reduce Fear, Escape Anxiety and End Panic.

And in that ebook, I make the claim that you can cut your fears in half in the next 15 minutes.

Then, you can cut the remaining fears in half.

In other words, you keep whittling away at your fears. You don't end them in one fell swoop.

I explain exactly how to do it in the first few pages of the ebook.

And now, I want to give you that information for free.

I'm doing this for two reasons.

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In almost every single case, this free information is the first step they need to take.

The trap we fall into is thinking our fears are different; somehow, they're bigger, stronger, more powerful than other people's fears.

"My fears are special."

Which means, 'harder to end'.

Well, I think you'll be amazed how quickly and easily it is to reduce your fears.

Anyway, from now on, I can just refer people to this free info when they ask for help. It'll save me a lot of time.


2. I'm betting once you read and actually APPLY the information in the first few pages of the ebook, you'll want to go ahead and buy your own copy.

See, this is just the beginning of the ebook. You'll find TONS of more information - useful information - you can use today.

You'll understand fear on a much deeper level -

why it's necessary, why you need a little bit of it, why it's impossible to completely end it, what it takes to conquer fear, where fear comes from, and much more.

Panic, on the other hand, can be completely ended.

Fear has value. Panic does not.

I'll show you how to end panic for good.

And anxiety?

Anxiety is not the same as fear. They are separate emotions which need to be dealt with in different ways.

I often say, "Cleanly feel your emotions so you retrieve your power from them and they can release".

In some situations, that's quite difficult. Anxiety is one of those situations.

Anxiety takes specialized knowledge.

I provide that knowledge in the ebook.

So remember, the info you're about to read is only the tip of the iceberg when it comes to fear, panic and anxiety.

You'll learn so much more in the ebook. But you can start here. It's free! Just click on the link below:

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Or if you're ready to go all the way, click here.

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